Losing a loved one is perhaps the most devastating experience anyone can ever have. Apart from the shock of realization that you will never again see them, hear them laugh, and share moments with them, you also have to take care of the process of taking them to their final resting place.
All of this can sometimes be too much. Allowing it to overwhelm you, however, is unhealthy. It’s never the same for everyone, and sometimes, keeping your head on straight is easier said than done, but here is some advice that might be of help during your trying times.
Take Comfort in the Fact That They’re At Peace
This might be particularly helpful if your loved one was very old or bedridden with illness. Imagine them being free of the disease or the ailments that plagued them and gave them pain in their last days. Thinking of them as now happy and free may even put a smile on your face.
Be Around Others, or Be Alone
During these moments you may want to be around people you know and love, reminiscing the old days with them when your loved one was still with you. It helps if your friends and family recall the good days, those fun days before your loved one was old and sick.
Of course, it’s different for everyone. Others want to be alone with their thoughts, and that’s OK too. It’s important to acknowledge what you feel at any moment. Sometimes you may want the company of someone, and at other times you may want to grieve alone. Giving yourself the space to do so may make grieving just a bit easier.
Speak to a Funeral Director
A funeral director in Layton has the experience and knowledge to deal with people who have just lost someone they love. They could suggest different parts of a service that would be very difficult to think about if you were on your own. Sometimes the director would come up with a suggestion that would make you happy as you realize it’s what your loved one would have wanted. Even the process of planning the service can give you a little reprieve from the sadness.
Not every person grieves the same way, but these suggestions may help. What matters is finding what makes you feel better as you try to remain strong in the face of sadness and grief.